Response to Neeru

This happens so often at my company as well. Once a married guy sits with a woman people are talking. They are always spreading rumors saying they heard this one is cheating and that one it too. I think people are more worried about that stuff sometimes then the work itself. I usually go to lunch at 1pm with two guy and a girl who used to like me but it didn't work out. Well sometimes I get in meetings and go to lunch at 12 with these 2 girls from the other building. She always makes a comment that I am having lunch with the ladies and that they are both married and I shouldn't be hitting on married women when that's not the case. Also I go for a walk at 3 everyday with this girl Dyan. Well her whole floor thinks that we have something going on even though she is married too. Why can't we just be friends without people making stupid comments. I mean yeah I laugh about it, but It does get old fast!!!

Response to Maria

I think that this happens all the time. People are always going to judge women before they do in this scenario. It seems to be more of a guy thing to be open and wanting it all the time. Women are supposed to be lady like and that does not fit into that description. Men always have the titles as pigs or jerks. That's why I always here women say it's hard to find a nice guy out there who just doesn't want that one thing. I think it most defiantly is easier for a women to dress more out there then men because when can where small tight things that show off more. Guys tend to where loose things that does not shot off to much. I mean guys who have big muscles might fit the description a little more because those are the men who usually where tight shirts and show off there muscle. It's more to attract women to them. It will hard to break the habit because girls want guys attention and the only way they seem to get it if they look hot or look easy. It will be hard to change this pattern I think.

Response to Mario

I think this is really awesome that you got in contact with the Author of the book. This was a very well written and easily understandable book to read. I learned a lot from her writings and this book to will only help me grow in the future.

That also was really great of her to get back to you in such short time. She seems to be a great person.

Response to IliaP

I to got a lot from this course and learned the same similar things. Like we need to be more open minded and change societies old forces of habits that we all encounter in today's world. If we all can open our eyes and know that if i guy where a pink shirt does not mean he is not masculine, it's because he liked the shirt. Things like this are ways we can accept the new and forget about the old. As long as we all put are differences aside and fix the problems then we can get some where. It's all up to how we do it that will shape generations in the future. This course only gave us a wider understanding of how and why there are gender differences today.

WEEK 6

My Eureka moment of the week happened today while at work go figure! Ha Well we were having a department party for a girl who is going to be getting married on Friday and today was her last day until July 6th. Well I offered to make a cake and bring it in, so I did that. Well boy did that get a lot of attention. Comments ranged from my girlfriend had to have made it or my mom made it. Everyone was so shocked I had made a cake. I couldn’t understand why it was such a big deal. But then I looked back at this class and see that people always perceive women do the baking and men can’t cook. I actually was kind of aggravated that is was such a big deal. One women from another department said men are usually the ones who bring in the chips or pretzels because when you see them you no a man must of brought them in. That comment is what struck to me to think I just had my Eureka moment. Everyone loved my cake I made and still some doubted I had made it. I don’t understand why can’t a 21-year-old guy make a cake? It’s not that hard!!! This perception seems to still linger today and more men cook and bake then people realize. It’s not just a womens job and it’s something guys are stereotyped all the time as not being able to cook or bake! Well I think this is a issue that needs to be changed!

Response to ShainaG

Below is supposed to be ShainaG not Sarah! : D

Response to Sarah P

This is a interesting point that you have come to notice. AS you see many times you are right it's always the mother taking the children all over creation. I worked in a after school program and I think back now to if I ever recalling any dad's coming to pick the kids up. Nor do I even remember the dad being the emergency contact number! Also don't you notice every time you walk into a daycare it's always women working there? I rarely every see a man working in one. Is it because women have that mother instinct and feeling that the kids feel more drawn too? It's questions that I wonder now too. Women I think just always have the motherly instincts and bonds that these are the roles they just pick up on when they have children.

Response to Neeru

I think you make some valid points in your blog. Why do people want to dress the girls identical? Why don't they want them to be individualistic because they both will have a different personality. I will say before taking this class I would of laughed and thought it was funny if I saw those bibs that she had gotten. But you are right. Why would a company manufacturer bibs with hottie, babe and sexy. For God's sake they are only babies! What gets me is when a boy wants to take one of thee girls out one day will the father appreciate them calling them hottie, babe or sexy? I don't think so!!!!! More like beautiful works and is nicer. Society has really gotten out of hand with the things that are exposed. A baby is not hot, nor sexy. A baby is a precious beautiful creation made my God.

Response to Ashley O

You make a interesting point because why do we see all the time the person who is the receptionist at a office always a girl? It is kind of interesting and I think the fact of the matter is women tend to not want to do that work. I can tell you that the girls I worked with at my job where we would have to lift court bags would always ask me to get them for them. They really never wanted to do it. While on the other hand my part time job at a market there are plenty of girls I work with who are picking up heavy things and unloading a box truck everyday. I don't want to sound bias in anyway, but I working in a office with people from USA. I work in a market with people from Poland and Russia. The women from Poland and Russia seem to be hard workers who will do anything you ask them to do. While the women I worked with just rather sit at the desk and work on the computer all day. I just think it's the roles society plays that get them to be this way. I think it's great for you to want to do things like this. And your right many times guys think they need to do the manuel things cause it be to much for the girls.

Response to Ashley O Comment

TO be honest I thought the movie was actually really good to watch and learn from actually. You should really see it. : ) I prefer to hear the truth because no matter what it may hurt, but every human being is willing and capable of getting over it. It hurts even more when you are lead on to believe something someone else know's is not true. You get your hopes up so high that eventually you get them brought down anyway. It's better sooner then later. Don't you think

WEEK 5

My Eureka Moment of the week was while I was watching a movie he’s just not into you with my sister on Friday night. The movie sparked many flags in my head and I was thinking the whole time about how we talked about these issues in class. To me it was this girl who was desperate for getting a boyfriend and they would never end up calling her back. She would keep calling them and thinking that they would eventually call her back. Well all the women kept telling her oh he will call you back and making up excuses practically for why he had not called her back yet. The one girl even wrote out on a pad what to call and leave on the guy’s message after calling him so many times. Well eventually she goes to this restaurant because she knew he goes there. She ends up telling the owner of the bar and restaurant who she was meeting and then he tells her he doesn’t come in on these nights. Well she’s baffled by this and ends up telling him she really was not meeting him, but she wanted to bump into him. Well being a guy he bluntly says he won’t ever call her back. So as time goes on through out the movie she is always calling the owner about advice and he would tell her the truth. After watching this movie I was thinking about how so many times women always try to sugar coat everything as to if they’re to afraid to say the truth. I realize how open men are and how they don’t play games. It’s interesting to see the differences in how people are told things. I think that being just open and honest about issues is better then beating around the bush. I know sometimes people don’t want to hear it and it might hurt, but we as human beings are strong enough to overcome it. I think this movie was a splitting image of how we as gender operate when dealing with situations. Women look more towards the caring and comforting role and men are more of the blunt and being tough role. I just thought the movie had related a lot to what we have been talking about during this semester and as I watched it all of these things from class were popping in my head. I don’t think people realize and understand gender roles as much as when you read into it. It’s mostly just how we act and we just go with the flow, but as you get in more depth you start to analyze things in a different way then most normal people do.

Response to Neeru

This is interesting to hear your experiences and I am sorry to hear they always have to end this way. I mean I have been friends with a girl since I was in 1st grade and maybe when you become so close so young it is different then when your an adult. I find it rather interesting how you become someone who thinks you are just there as a shoulder to lean on then they throw you a curve ball and express themselves to you in a way you did not think was possible. What makes it worse is you don't want to be the reason he leaves his wife nor will you feel the same after he expresses himself to you. I think why guys dont express themselves to women is they are afraid of what happened to him. Being to open will only lead them to loosing the person so they hold everything in that is why men are the way they are when it comes to talking about things.

Response to Ashley

Wow this is a great post because it's so true!! I had never thought about this till I read your post and thought wow I so here my mom saying that all the time! I think that both men and women should share the kitchen as well, both need to put effort into cooking the dinners. A guy shouldn't expect top have dinner put on the table every day and every time he gets home from work. Yeah the famous excuse will be " I worked all day and I am tired". I think that you are right when people always assume the woman should cook the food in the house and every time the guy wants to cook they make the comment they hope the house does not burn down. This is probably why when you date a girl they always seem to ask do you cook? and what do you cook? I guess women really look for a man to cook, they see it as brownie points :)

Response to Mario D

Mario,

I read your post and I think how much I have come to realize now about how far women still seem to being equal to a male. I think it is depressing and I enjoyed doing the research for this class. It is funny how we both has similar moments this week. I really can't wait to see everyone's projects! You are right you don't need to be a women to try and get the word out, men have to be there to for support! Many men would not come out and say they would want to be activists for women. I think it's great you say this. I am not ashamed to say I voted for Hilary Clinton in the primaries and was 100% for her. yeah she was a women, but every time she talked I got the chills. I went and saw her at temple university and she was amazing. It was filled with prob 75% women, but still I was not ashamed to show my support for her. Many of my guy friends say she can't run a man's job! It is still in so many people's mind that women will never be up to par with a male. Something needs to change and I am right there with you!

Week 4

My Eureka moment of the week actually was over the weekend while I was doing my final project research. I watched a video I found on Youtube of President Obama and his equal pay legislation into affect. After watching to video and hearing Lilly Ledbetter I really was speechless. I had never realized how much employers discriminated against paying women an equal amount of money. I didn’t realize that not getting paid the same amount limits their pension funds and Social Security. All I could think about was her southern voice and talking about how she was not compensated for her hard work that was equal to her fellow males job. How could America be such a place to do such a thing? I still don’t understand this at all. And then another video I found was a women doing a “man’s job” while working on the new Yankee stadium. Well her words were “I am finally living the American Dream”. Every person should be living the American Dream from the day they are born. To be in your 30’s with kids and now only feeling like your living that dream is what dumb founded me. These two videos showed me how unfair we have been as a community to women. And to think Lilly could not be compensated for the $200,000 she lost in wages. I think this was horrendous and I am glad I worked n this project. I didn’t learn and realize as much now how badly equal pay has been. And to think it still is going on today. It’s only been 40 odd years since an equal pay act has been put into legislation and we, as a society still can’t compensate women equally. Is it just me or do not only women but men need to join forces in the help to stop inequalities between genders. To me I saw a different light and would do anything to get them where they need to be. A lot of men could care less, but sincerely after reading about this topic I had my Eureka moment!!

Respose to Professor

I heard about that show, but never got to actually see it. The word cougar is used a lot these days. Well I guess I should say I hear it a lot from the people I hang out with. I never understand why people are so concerned with the age of someone you are dating or married too. Age is just a number and many times people portray women with older men because they are gold diggers and a man with an older woman always gives him brownie points with the guys. It’s an interesting topic you bring up here! Exactly it was a reality show and these shows are just on for our entertainment. That is why half the people who go on these shows never last. It’s to make money. I wish I could have seen the show to see how it went. Now I am interested in finding it on TV. Good question is why would they call it a cougar anyway? She’s 40 and the guys are young. It’s a dating show and nothing more.

Response to Sarah P

That is interesting you say this because in the company I work for the costumer service people are all women, the billing people are all women, but all the people with the big office are all men. I have not been in the work force that long, but my experience has been very interesting when it comes to dealing with the corporate world. I think that the reason is many times people in the higher up jobs have been there so long and there mind sets are not up to date. I know it is no excuse because sometimes I wonder how some people have these higher positions when other people know more than they do. Makes no sense. I think this process is a slow process and it still will take time before women are treated 100% equal. I am sorry you feel this way! But isn’t it always interesting how the receptionist is always a female and the secretaries for these men are always female. I wonder why….

Respone to Ilia

I heard about this story to on the radio actually going to work today. It’s a horrible situation. It seems this is all we hear about in the news these days. Priest molesting boys and older guys molesting and raping girls. It gets to a point where we as a society need to draw the line and do something about this. More often now is it publicized then it was back in the day. You make two valid points about Gender Intimidation and Sexual Assault. Both are two major things that go on in many of these cases. An 11-year-old girl cannot do much when a grown man is they’re trying to rape her. She feels powerless and defenseless. I am sure many times when the victim tries to fight back and it can end up worse! I totally agree with you as well. If someone is forced to have any contact with someone else without there consent that is some kind of assault charge. I remember in my one class we talked about this one time and a kid says well a person cannot be force to do anything they don’t want to do, they just use that excuse. I couldn’t believe someone could say such a thing, because many times a person has no choice but to do what the person is telling him or her to do. It gets to a point where this world is getting to be a horrible place and I hear older people say how much is changed. Most people can’t even let their kids outside by themselves anymore!

WEEK 3

My moment of the week has to deal with how not only are women part of domestic violence, but men are also as well. This moment came after reading the chapters. I think that many times it it always portrayed as the men committing the act and not the woman. This is also something men are afraid to admit that a girl beat him up when he is supposed to be the strong masculine man. This is actually an interesting subject on my part, because a friend of mine was abused by his ex girlfriend. She had actually broke his arm and she was this petite woman. We actually joked and laughed when he told us that she did it knowing it was out of rage. WE actually didn't take it seriously. Well come to find out after months after they broke up one night he came and told us all about it. I found it really interesting. He was afraid to admit to anyone he had plenty of domestic disputes with her. I think now why so many men are afraid to admit things like these kinds of things. I think that many times media and people tend to portray the males as coming to act and hardly ever the female. Actually I can't remember ever seeing this happen. I think that men are just to ashamed to tell anyone they are getting beat up by a girl. I seriously think I would do the same thing as him. I think that guys are not as caring and comforting about the issue as the women are when there girls friends are getting beat up. I don't know. I just think it's something that is not something that is out there that much. I think it happens to more men than society thinks.

Response to Neeru

This must happen in a lot of places, because a woman upstairs who emails me back and forth at work was telling me how some guy was fixing the copy machine next to her desk and he kept making nasty remarks and stuff to her and the people around her. She didn't do anything about it, but it makes no sense to think why would people come into a company and talk the way they do. I work for a very reputable and professional company and for people like him to come and talk like that is unacceptable. Same for where you work and in this day and age people definably need to watch what they say!!!

Response to Mario

Something that defiantly has been an old tradition is the head of the table, which was always the man of the house. I think that it interesting that you state that because many times in every household this is set and people just never realize it. The man sitting at the head of the table is a symbol of power to him and others and this is such an old tradition. I don’t think that in today’s world it is seen as any status symbol, but it’s still kind of unique how it still goes on. I think it would be weird to see the kid sitting at the head of the table. It defiantly would need to get used to seeing that. It’s not so much a gender role anymore, but a habit that just is never ending. : )

Response to Ashley O

I think that this is a very good example of how gender differences are in sports BUT I think that when this show was put on it was more prone to these kinds of circumstances. From my experiences I think that women are not as excluded now a days ad they were back then with the sports that tend to be all males. I think that the reason women were being excluded from all male sports sometimes because there bodies are not built like a mans body. I think that it was more of a protection for the women. Yes, I know plenty of women who can do just fine in rough sports, but really some don’t understand how rough men can get and how much damage they can do. I know plenty of guys also that think women can’t do sports that tend to be a males sport, but that’s just societies way so everyone follows it. I do think we are way further then we were when that show was on. Definitely more women are let into playing with the guys. Plus some girls seem to just want to prove guys wrong, but really your right if you have the passion and love for something you should do it other then that don’t!

Week Two

So, I had my Eureka moment while reading chapter 5 and it only happened 3 pages in while reading Language Defines Men and Women Differently. Before reading any further “For instance, coverage of women’s sports frequently focuses more on women athlete appearance than on their athletic skills” (Woods 119). This gave me the biggest sight of Serena Williams in Wimbledon when she wore this black outfit and all they kept talking about is what she was wearing and how it might b affecting her game, so on. The funny thing is that Venus and Maria Sharapova were both listed after as examples. It was not until this time that I thought wow these newscasters really do focus a lot of attention on what these women are wearing on court. So, I have been keeping my eyes open on the French Open that is on now I will be keeping some close tabs on what they are saying about the women these days. You really do never hear them talk about what they men are wearing either. This is really interesting and I never really though about it in this light. But all I think about is how they were so fixated on what Serena wears in these tournaments and I am sure the true tennis fans could care less!!!! I never really cared about it either, but now that I think about it more I am thinking about how many times I went to these tournaments and watched it on TV and all they can talk about is who looks good. The women that wear a normal outfit get no attention either. I can’t think as to if these women are wearing it for attention or for fashion? Any comments on this???

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