Tuesday, June 16, 2009
WEEK 5
My Eureka Moment of the week was while I was watching a movie he’s just not into you with my sister on Friday night. The movie sparked many flags in my head and I was thinking the whole time about how we talked about these issues in class. To me it was this girl who was desperate for getting a boyfriend and they would never end up calling her back. She would keep calling them and thinking that they would eventually call her back. Well all the women kept telling her oh he will call you back and making up excuses practically for why he had not called her back yet. The one girl even wrote out on a pad what to call and leave on the guy’s message after calling him so many times. Well eventually she goes to this restaurant because she knew he goes there. She ends up telling the owner of the bar and restaurant who she was meeting and then he tells her he doesn’t come in on these nights. Well she’s baffled by this and ends up telling him she really was not meeting him, but she wanted to bump into him. Well being a guy he bluntly says he won’t ever call her back. So as time goes on through out the movie she is always calling the owner about advice and he would tell her the truth. After watching this movie I was thinking about how so many times women always try to sugar coat everything as to if they’re to afraid to say the truth. I realize how open men are and how they don’t play games. It’s interesting to see the differences in how people are told things. I think that being just open and honest about issues is better then beating around the bush. I know sometimes people don’t want to hear it and it might hurt, but we as human beings are strong enough to overcome it. I think this movie was a splitting image of how we as gender operate when dealing with situations. Women look more towards the caring and comforting role and men are more of the blunt and being tough role. I just thought the movie had related a lot to what we have been talking about during this semester and as I watched it all of these things from class were popping in my head. I don’t think people realize and understand gender roles as much as when you read into it. It’s mostly just how we act and we just go with the flow, but as you get in more depth you start to analyze things in a different way then most normal people do.
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I want to see this movie so bad! What did you think of it? I agree with how you said men are more honest then women. I like for people to be honest with me, but majority of the time I'm guilty of sugar coating things. I know it's best to always tell the truth, I jsut hate hurting other people's feelings because the truth can hurt. As a male, do you prefer hearing the truth even if it's hurtful?
ReplyDeleteThat movie was absolutely great, and the main focus of my Wiki page. I love the fact that you said, men don't play games. In a way, they do, by saying things like, I'll call you, when they know deep down they have no intention of calling you, but that is where the game ends. Women, however, will let this go on for weeks, stating that the man is messing with them, when in reality, he ended it a long time ago, she just never got the memo. As the movie says, if he is interested, he will call. That's it. Regardless, I am still a girl, and if I was single and meeting guys at the moment, I would still be doing the whole. AHHH WHY HASN"T HE CALLED ME YET thing. I know better, but that is the way it will always be. Women will almost always believe that they are the exception, rather than the rule.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the fact that the whole idea of gender roles really changes when we start to study it in depth. I think it will be a long time before these roles change or before we even see a movement towards change, however, I think the first step in making less of a gap between men and womens expectations will be recognizing that there is a lot more to the equation than playing games, being strong, or being gentle. Learning about gender differences and what expectations society has might make it easier for people like us to educate others about what they can do to work on the differences embedded into our minds.
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